Join me for a revealing look at how speaker style at the turn of the century has transcended time. Inspired by a vintage textbook of readings entitled Tommy’s Second SPEAKER for Little Boys and Girls, I will uncover FIVE TIME-TRAVELED TIPS that speaker coaches have been using for generations.
But first, a bit of backstory – I, a longtime speaker coach, discovered Tommy’s yellowed but cared for text in a thrift shop in Woodstock Illinois – published at the turn of the century –exact date and editor unknown. Of course I had to buy it!
The opening lines surprised me – as they may you.
THE OPENING LINES
“When a young lady just from boarding school makes a curtsy so profoundly pronounced that you instantly think of the school, she overdoes it”…“When a public speaker’s tones and gestures recall the ‘elocution class, he is lacking in something.”
What Tommy was learning in 1895 is not that different from what I would hope my clients would practice and that is – being authentic. The meaning of authenticity is talked about a lot today; in fact, after noting a particularly large number of searches on the word, Merriam Webster designated “Authentic” as the Word of the Year 2023. The dictionary definition of the term is “of undisputed origin; genuine.”
For a speaker, authenticity shines through with a balance of sincere content and natural delivery. What follows are FIVE TIME TRAVELED TIPS – cited in this vintage text and modernized and simplified by me!
FIVE TIME TRAVELED TIPS
#1 Share your natural personality.
(As previously quoted, look like a natural – not stiffly trained).
#2 Stand erectly and confidently.
From the Second Speaker: “An honest man full of a just idea and bent on imparting it to others utters his mind with his body at a half-bend. He would have made this effort more impressive if he had stood erect. He would have been better if he had been taught to stand up and speak.”
#3 Find and convey the variety in your natural voice.
As the Second Speaker notes: “He began his sentences well enough but those of them of which he meant to be solemn and oppressive he wound up in a key so low that he became inaudible.” “Nature gives us a musical voice. Art trains it.”
#4 Look at your audience more than your notes.
And the Second Speaker says: “The man who reads from a paper is commonly at a little disadvantage, unless he has been well trained to do his work. His eye must be on the paper a great deal and his head bent towards it and in some notably bad cases the effort to look at the paper and then stand up and give out to the people what has been taken in.”
#5 Be a cheerleader for your topic.
Tommy’s Speaker puts it so: “Many a man has great properties within him but they have never had justice done them and he has not risen to the limit of his possible usefulness.”
Public speaking is not a new endeavor. Yet, across centuries, there are very similar traits of excellence. Below is an actual Speaker Exercise From Tommy’s Second Speaker (page 16 ) It is called, “Write to the old folks” Try practicing this verse (as Tommy did) using the Time Traveled Tips. And then contact someone at home who misses you.
Don’t go to the theater, concert or ball, but stay in your room to-night.
Deny yourself to the friends that call
And a good long letter write.
Write to the sad old folks at home who sit when the day is done, With folded hands and downcast eyes and think of the absent one.
YOU CAN JUST TELL
As I arrived at my local grocery store, I noticed a “We’re Hiring” sign posted at the front door. This is not unusual these days: the unusual thing was what was next:
“Hiring interviews on site. You could be hired in an hour!”
I found this intriguing, but since I was not looking for employment, I went ahead with my shopping.
A bit later, while checking out, I noticed a table in front with forms on it and a woman seated behind. I overheard her tell a colleague “I just hired 11 people.”
I couldn’t resist asking, “Wow, tell me. How did you decide on those 11? What was the winning factor ? A confident smile?” I was partly joking.
“Oh, yes, well, that’s part of it,” she said immediately. “It’s personality. You can just tell.”
I asked, “How can you just tell?” She then explained that she could sense an applicant’s energy and confidence and that made a difference for any type of grocery job – from bagging to stocking to cleaning the floor. “Most of the time, she said, “it doesn’t matter if they have experience.” “It’s how they present themselves.” (And again she said)”You can just tell.”
Hmmm. I asked if she did a lot of interviewing, and then she revealed that she was the hiring manager for several stores. So, yes, she did A LOT of interviewing!
I am a communication coach and instructor, and In my classes we discuss nonverbal communication: smiling, eye contact, body posture and more. But we don’t often get a chance to prove how they make a difference. Theory says yes, but here in my grocery store was a living testimony. Energized nonverbal presence gets jobs!
Since that day I’ve shopped at my store several times. The hiring table in front is gone. But as I observe the various stockers and deli clerks and clerks in the store I can’t help but wonder what they did or said that passed the hiring manager’s criteria: “You can just tell.”
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