Are You Stuck in Your Crate? How to Change With the New Year

A few days ago, we folded up the metal crate that once frequently corralled our Labrador retriever, Max, in a corner of our family room. We replaced it with a soft cushion that we figured he would appreciate as a now-mature pup of three. But to our surprise Max did not take immediately to the change. He padded around it, avoiding its presence as if saying; ”This smells like a store—not me; where’s my old thing and what’s with you people?”

After several demonstrations on our part—which included our lying on the new pad, lying on the pad holding his favorite toy, even putting a peanut-butter coated toy on the pad for enticement—Max finally tried out the new thing—but only barely touching the corner of it. Then, after several days, he began to lie on it fully. Now it is his favorite spot in the room.

Isn’t it funny how one person’s idea of a good change is not another’s? As we all enter the New Year we will most likely be facing the continuation of things known and anticipating the introduction of some new ones. As we approach change that each New Year brings, can we also let go of our own homey “crates”? Can we take a mature look at the boundaries that have confined us to the old and accept the challenge and inspiration of the new?

Perhaps we should consider this advice for humans inspired by Max:

TO GET UNSTUCK, TRY TO…

Sniff and test.
Let others know you’ll give it a try. This is a great first step. It’s much better than saying, “No way—not ever.”

Let trusted friends and colleagues guide you.
Reach out to those who’ve been in similar positions and who support you. Ask their advice and get tips on how they coped and succeeded.

Appreciate the freedom change brings.
Once you allow yourself to get free of your “crate,” you receive freedom in return. Who knows? Your new situation may prove to be more comfortable, more reassuring, and more rewarding than your old one.

Happy New Year 2008 from Cyndi and Max Maxey!